Thursday, April 30, 2009

Op-Ed Piece by one of our DGH girls:

University budget cuts worry future collegian

I was deeply saddened when I read the front-page story, “Budget cuts inflict pain at colleges” (March 19), which involved the budget cuts at local colleges. What could this mean for the future of education?

As a junior in high school it disturbs me to know that reductions in the budgets of state-supported universities such as UNCG and N.C. A&T may hurt my education.

The termination of more and more professors will lead to larger classes and a smaller selection of courses.

Meanwhile, the tuition of these universities could skyrocket, making education more costly, especially to freshmen — even though we’re all struggling to make it through the economic drought.

Depriving our schools of their curricula and instructors is bound to have a much broader effect if it’s carried on too long.

I’m just hoping that there is a chance this won’t last and these schools eventually will reverse all of their major cuts.

Raven Wilson

The writer is a junior at Dudley High School.

Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Overdue Pics

Looking stellar at our traditional Sunrise Service on Easter Sunday.

(Reido, are you wearing your outfit from the night before at church??? Hmmm...)

And a couple photos from the Rotary fundraiser we attended with Gary and Carrie. It was a lucky night... Dan Turner won $500 bucks and my pops won $5K!

Tuesday, April 28, 2009

My not-so-little "Bird"

I just got off the phone with my baby sister and she was walking out of her LAST COLLEGE CLASS! Holy cow, it seems like yesterday when I was sitting in my grandmother's kitchen... Her old, rotary dial, wood phone rang and my parents announced I had a little sister. Hallaluiah! I took off running through the house, screaming with delight.

Now that baby girl is all grown up! While it has happened at lightening speed, it has been one of the biggest blessings of my entire life. Mallory is part of my soul. She is my best friend, my teacher, my student, my life-line... Birdy, I am so, so, so proud of you. Thank you for being absolutely everything to me.

Monday, April 27, 2009

Mini-Goal Achieved!

The Junior League of Greensboro's Legacy Campaign just passed the $300,000 fundraising mark! We are at $306,135 and counting...

Sunday, April 26, 2009

Back to my real job...

I'm in Virginia for a couple of nights. (Yay, with the hubby!)

Just spent about 3 hours cooking enough "study food" to last him the next two weeks. Mollie Perez, you would be proud; I made:

- Fresh Veggie and Beef Spanish Rice
- BBQ, Broccoli and Red Onion Pizza (I even made the crust)
- Baked Spaghetti
- Cornbread Casserole
- Grilled Chicken Sandwiches with Mustard and Soy Glazed Roasted Red Potatoes
- Magic Cookie Bars

As one would probably expect, The Box is a little dirtier than the last time I was here. I think we might need to rename it The Bachelor Box!

I also started packing for our move back to Greensboro today. Mike and I have been enjoying a glass of red wine and a new playlist he made for me... I cannot wait to enjoy dinner and dance nights on the front porch of our new house!!!!

Thank you for all of the words of encouragement in response to my last post. I took a couple days of "think time" over the weekend... It gave my heart a chance to let my head put everything into perspective. This, in combination with your support, has me geared up and ready for a new week, full of new ideas and a renewed passion.

In the meantime, I am going to go back to enjoying my last night (for a couple weeks) at my real job... Being Mrs. Michael Ryan Bucy.

Thursday, April 23, 2009

Sometimes I just want to cry.

Is this what it's like? You put your heart and soul into someone and then they tell you they don't need you...

"I'll be fine on my own or else I'll ask my teacher. I don't need your help."

"You know you need to be ready by 9:30 tomorrow morning, right?"
(It is 10:00pm the night before)

"Uh huh."

In some ways, I have no idea what it's like to be a parent... In others, I feel like I've suddenly adopted several teenage girls...

The hard part is that I believe in them so much... I am happy to sacrifice the time, the money, and (most valuable of all) the emotion. But when they act like they don't need or want me in their lives, it rips my heart out...

Recap of the past three days

I find out that one of our GreenHouse girls is going to receive a scholarship that we nominated her for. I am super excited. Her acceptance speech is tomorrow and she is supposed to give a 3-5 minute "thank you" and to eat lunch with the group of women who are funding the award. All she is concerned with is the jewelry and dress we are helping her get for prom. She has not, will not, write any remarks to prepare. She got mad at me (and my sister) for trying to stress the importance of the scholarship over the dress.

Another one of our girls has been telling me she has all A's, B's and C's... Come to find out she is actually failing her entire freshman year. All F's!!! The worst part is that she is bright and capable, she just has a major attendance problem.

Which brings me to the third point of drama... Her drug addicted mother who sold all of their family's food stamps so she could fund her addictions. Now they are calling asking if we can help them get some groceries. Lord, what do you want us to do at this point? It feels like such a complicated, whirlwind of mess. How can we help without enabling this downward, self-deprecating spiral?

Sometimes I just want to cry. I mean - seriously, I want to fall into my husband's arms and bawl my eyes out.

So Dustin, this is a skymail entry... I want you to know that your work (here on earth) is hard. I am trying. I promise I am trying, but it is so incredibly hard. I guess that's to be expected... Maybe we are reaching that point of truth. The point where the social philanthropist is separated from the real philanthropist. It really makes you stop and question - Am I even doing a good job?

How do you parent teenagers who have grown up with no rules, no mentors, no guiding light??? How do you play parent when you've never even had an infant, toddler or adolescent of your own??? How do you help someone when you are forced to send them back to a war-zone of a home night after night???

Please, Dustin, find these girls some mercy! Please, little brother, help me do a better job of being your arms, your legs, your hands...

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

Today's Updates

Happy Earth Day. Just ate Sushi and went to see Planet Earth (the movie) with friends. Typically not my cup of tea but I have to say, I actually enjoyed it.

The Junior League is at $290,985... So close to the 3-mark!!!

Termite inspection at the new house today. The inspector was a woman named Amy and darn was she brave! She would stick her bare hands in holes and up under boards. The only tool she carried was a screwdriver... I kept thinking, "don't you want a can of Off or something with a little more surface area than a screwdriver!" I was also running around squeamishly behind her (in white pants and heels). It's a wonder she didn't grow impatient and chuck the thing at me.

Girl Golf on Saturday. Email me if you'd like to join us. So far Carli and I are confirmed!

A friend from college is helping us line-up Capitol tickets for the Dustin's GreenHouse DC trip. Still looking for White House tour tickets if anyone has any ideas.

Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Girls love when we let them be girls

Last night, the Dustin's GreenHouse girls began working on a gift they will give to the people of Oradea, Romania. This gift is unique in that it will never wear out, nor can it ever be sold or taken away from its recipients...

It is the gift of music and of dance.

We split the team into two groups of eight and gave them one hour to choreograph a routine. There were five rules to the exercise:

1. Pick 1 song out of the 4 that have been provided to you.

2. Each member of the group must contribute at least 1 move.

3. Your routine must be at least 60 seconds long.

4. Please keep everything PG-13 ( Sorry, I know I’m a dork!)

5. You only have 1 hour to choreograph your routine.

The activity was a hit - In fact, I think the Leaders enjoyed it just as much as the girls!!! Here are 2 videos showcasing the final product.

Monday, April 20, 2009

Random Updates

I helped my sister redesign her golf shop on Friday. It looks so good! I can't wait to hear what her boss has to say about it.

Speaking of bosses - have you seen the movie Australia? So good! I love "Mrs. Boss."

Awesome GreenHouse meeting tonight. 23 rays of light in my life.

Move in day is fast approaching. I feel like I am getting married all over again. We get to live together, in one place, for an indefinite period of time. Have you ever been to a suitcase burning party?

Designer Showhouse is just around the corner. I promise this thing will be awesome. Please come tour the house or participate in one of the special events.

Hubby is studying his butt off. He passed the MPRE with flying colors!!!! Just 4 more biggies to go - 2 law school exams, level 2 of the CFA and the NC bar. I am so proud of him and praying for his peace of mind.

Went to Ella James' 2nd birthday this weekend. It made me want one!

Friday, April 10, 2009

Big Fans!

LaKeya O'Neal and Fanny Taylor at the Ragsdale track meet on Wednesday. LaKeya's relay team won the 4 x 200.

Wednesday, April 8, 2009

Prayers Needed

I have been looking for one of our GreenHouse girls for a couple days now and have finally tracked her down. She has an amazing guidance counselor who also keeps an eye on her. Here is a copy of the email I received from Cheryl this morning:

Hi Ashlie,
I just talked with "Missing Student"... They had to move to a new apartment because the apartments they were in are to be torn down. She missed a couple of days of school to help mom move.

I called the Driver’s Ed School today and they said since she had missed 2 days, she would just have to start over another time so you won’t need to pick her up. "Missing Student" was in here when I called so she knows too.

Step-dad is to get out of jail next month, after 3 years, and will be coming back home. Mom is addicted to Vicodin and will be going to rehab when Dad comes home. They were in court yesterday and, instead of jail, mom has been ordered to rehab.

She is still excited about the trip this summer and I think at this point, it is the only bright light in all of this.

Just wanted to catch you up. She gave me her Uncle's number (who is temporarily out of jail) if we need to get in touch with her.

Please keep this young lady, and all of our girls in your prayers. I cannot begin to imagine what my view of the world would look like if I had to wake up to this type of reality every day.

Tuesday, April 7, 2009

A Bonding Experience

We took some of our girls over to the Bargain Box last week for some spring shopping. Here are a couple pictures of our goof-ball fashionistas.

Monday, April 6, 2009

News and Record

The News and Record did a feature story on some of our girls this weekend. Here is a link to the article if you have not seen it already: The GreenHouse Globetrotters, Big challenges, big dreams

Thursday, April 2, 2009